I’m on a constant journey towards a happy and positive life. As a born pessimist, I spend a lot of time researching and reflecting, looking for more ways I can chance my lifestyle and thought patterns to live more positively. Today I want to share five lessons with you that I’ve learned, that can have a huge impact on how you live your life.
Don’t be so focused on what you want, that you forget what you already have
Being focused on your dreams and goals is a great thing. Keeping your eyes on the finish line helps you to get there as soon as possible, but don’t get too caught up in wishing. If you only ever think about your ideal situation, it’s easy to feel as if what you have now somehow isn’t good enough. Don’t let this happen! Try to consiously look around you and appreciate everything you have at the moment. You want to go to a great place, but where you’re now is pretty good as well. Embrace your current situation and enjoy it to the fullest.
Stop complaining, start moving
Every time you’re about to voice a complaint, stop yourself and try to come up with a solution instead. Instead of saying “I’m so tired”, suggest to go sit down with a cup of tea somewhere. Instead of complaining about the colour of your bedroom wall, paint it. Complaining is a very negative thing and doesn’t get you anywhere. Take matters into your own hands and change whatever is bothering you!
Embarrassment is the most useless emotion. I admire people that just go their own way without ever worrying about what others think about them. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, you shouldn’t care at all whether others think you’re weird, inappropriate or whatever. You do you! The feeling of freedom you acquire when you ditch embarrassment is such a huge weight off your shoulders, I guarantee you’ll love it.
You catch more flies with honey
I’ve found that whenever I go out with a positive attitude, radiate a bright energy and approach people with a smile, I get the same attitude back from them. I’m a very introverted and shy person so talking to strangers is very scary to me, but when I exude positivity I find that people are often very willing to help me. People are attracted to positivity as negativity scares them. Who doesn’t want a smile in their day?
Take a step back and relax
Sometimes all you need to do is to stop taking everything so seriously. I struggle with this myself so I get it’s hard, but you have to realise the world won’t stop turning if you don’t meet that deadline, or can’t make that dinner. Take a step back and try to imagine it’s not you in that situation, but a friend of yours. What advise would you give her? Would you think it’s such a horrible problem if it wasn’t yours, but hers?