Happy new year my lovely readers! I hope you’re all off to a great start, and have a wonderful year this year. I’m super excited to get back into working full time again, after the hectic move and holidays. This year, new year’s feels like a proper new beginning for me as so much has recently changed. I expect it’ll take some time for Robbert and me to get into a routine together that works perfectly for the both of us, and of course we’ll have to learn to live with having each other around all the time, haha! So far living together has been amazing, but there’s always room for improvement and I still haven’t completely gotten used to life here. There’ll be a Tea Time video up tomorrow all about the move and the new living situation so stay tuned for more of that, but besides settling in I do have a few more little things I’d like to focus on in 2018.
I feel like one of the most common new year’s resolutions is to say “no” more often. Mine is exactly the opposite: I want to start saying yes! Yes to new adventures, yes to things that scare me, yes to social activities and trips. I’m quite a proficient nay-sayer and at the beginning of last year I decided to stop saying no to things just because they will require some effort on my part, physical or mental. Saying yes if the only reason to say no is fear or laziness has hands down been my best resolution last year, and the one that has done the most for me. The only way to conquer fears is by facing them, and the only way to learn what your boundaries are is through experience. Saying yes has made me feel like I’m living more, and it’s been wonderful. I’m definitely going to keep doing this in 2018, even though it’s uncomfortable at times.
Now that I don’t travel back and forth between two cities on the weekly anymore and spend less time on my bike, I need to find different ways to keep my body moving. As a start, I’ve decided to leave the house at least once every single day, if only to take a walk to the grocery store. Not just will this get me moving, I’ll also get some fresh air and a bit of sunshine on my face, along with a change of scenery. I’ve also been playing around with the idea of joining a gym or sports club, but I’m not sure that’s a realistic goal at the moment (mostly financially). Going outside for a bit every day seems like a good place to start! Resolutions that include the word ‘daily’ are always a bit tricky, but this one should be achievable with my current lifestyle and schedule.
Another consequence of no longer spending the weekend at my parents’ is I prepare my own food every day now. I feel like I already have a pretty healthy diet, but I’d like to turn it up a notch. I’m going to try and eat more fruits and vegetables by having at least one piece of fruit with breakfast every day, and eating more varied lunches. Right now I usually eat a few slices of wholewheat bread with various toppings for lunch, but I’d like to substitute fresh soups and buddha bowls for that more often, at least three times a week. Along with the midday fruit snack and veggie based dinners I already eat, this will make for a good amount of fresh produce and more exciting meals.
The older I get, the better I learn what I need in order to maintain my mental health. Saying yes to new things can be fun and exciting, but it also teaches me when I’ve crossed my limits. I’m constantly getting better at knowing what situations are risky for me, how to avoid them if possible and how to deal with them if they can’t or shouldn’t be avoided. I want to develop that even more this year, but my biggest resolution is this: if at any point this year I feel like I could do with a bit of help, I’ll go get it. I’ve been very reluctant to get therapy for years, but I feel like I’m ready to try again. Right now I’m doing well and I don’t feel like I need it, but if I start feeling lost I will give it a go in 2018.
And there we are! These are my goals and resolutions for the new year. Nothing major this time, as my biggest goal (moving house) has already been achieved. Besides, you never know what opportunities will arise throughout the year that can’t be foreseen yet. I’m going to keep working on myself and my relationship with Robbert as we go of course, but I’m very satisfied with my life at the moment and would like to take a while to enjoy where we are now. Steady as she goes!
What’s your biggest resolution or goal for 2018?