A few days after new year’s, after I’d published all my “resolutions and goals” posts, I made one more new year’s resolution. The biggest one of all, in hindsight. The most life-changing one, in any case. I decided to stop saying no and start saying yes.
I always come across these posts about learning to stand up for yourself and saying no. Well, me being the anxious pessimist I am, I’m very, very good at saying no. I’d say I’m somewhat of an expert. When something scares me, feels like it’ll take too much time, involves meeting new people, doesn’t feel right, or is simply too new, my first reaction will be “no”. Always has been. I’m not entirely sure when or how it happened, but right after new year’s, I decided it was enough. I’ve felt really good and steady for months now mental health wise, so maybe that has something to do with it, but I’m ready to take on more (small) adventures in my life, venture out more and experience things I might have passed on in the past. So I resolved to say “yes”, if the only reasons to say “no” are irrational fears or laziness.